Dear Brianne

"Dear Brianne...I was adopted from the US to Europe. Can you help me?"

"Dear Brianne...I was adopted from the US to Europe. Can you help me?"

A few of the sections from my book with co-author Shannon Combs-Bennett addresses special issues related to international/intercountry adoptions.

Most of the book is US-centric (where Shannon and I live and have most of our experience). Some of the issues we address in the book are not country-specific, though, like issues we address related to the emotional aspects and moving forward with communication.

As DNA testing options expand, the use of DNA testing for the purpose of family searches will grow as well.

I recently received an email from someone living in Europe who was adopted out of the US state of New York. Here is how I addressed his question.

"Dear Brianne...I reached out to my unexpected half-sister but now I'm worried. Did I jump the gun?"

"Dear Brianne...I reached out to my unexpected half-sister but now I'm worried. Did I jump the gun?"

I recently received a message from someone who made an unexpected discovery of a new family member after doing DNA testing. The parents involved are all since deceased, and the person who wrote me had written to her match welcoming her to the family and then began to have regrets. Had she considered the other person’s reaction?

As more NPE discoveries are made, these types of questions grow more frequent. Ready my brief response to “Excited but Now Concerned” below.

"Dear Brianne, I'm adopted...Where do I even start?"

"Dear Brianne, I'm adopted...Where do I even start?"

I have people reach out through my website who are adopted or donor conceived and are at the very start of a search, asking where do I even start? It can be overwhelming trying to learn all of the ins and outs of searching whether using access to records or DNA testing.

Here’s how I responded to a recent query: