Arnold first shared about his experience discovering an unknown biological daughter on the Watershed DNA blog many years ago. In episode 3 this season, Arnold joined Brianne to share more of his story. He is back again to answer listener questions, offering reassurance and parting words to fathers and families who find themselves in a similar situation.

Today’s guest, Arnold (shared with permission), reflects on the past six years since he first learned he had a biological daughter he never knew existed. His story is one of vulnerability and openness, of loss and healing, and finding courage to reveal a surprise child discovery after years of choosing not to share.

This episode covers:

• Arnold’s experience of preparing to share about his biological child discovery, first with his wife and later his children

• Arnold (and his late wife’s) decision to meet his biological daughter in person and develop a relationship with her privately

• Finding community with other bio dads and from online support groups

• How coaching with Brianne set him up for success in sharing the surprise news

DNA surprise discoveries are not confined to one person in a family. When a DNA discovery upsets the truth, we see everyone involved hit with the ripples. Pain and anger, clarity and relief---all of these are common and normal reactions.

Watershed DNA’s founder Brianne Kirkpatrick shares on the blog of 23andMe some tips for healthcare providers about what to do with a patient’s unexpected DNA family discovery.

How do you prepare for an in-person meeting with someone you've never met but who shares some of your DNA?