I have worked with biological fathers on the other side of discovery, and some are struggling to balance it all and know what is the “right” thing to do. The best outcomes happen when communication is slow and paced (think snail mail pace and not Facebook chats and text messaging). Decisions to meet up need to be based on all-around readiness, not geographical convenience or other pressure.

Conveying unexpected news is never easy, and it's natural to feel uncertain going into it. The world of DNA testing and surprise DNA discoveries has made ‘breaking the news’ a new part of life for many people.